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Carino

Question:I've been searching for some tips on "how to forgive" . I know that as long as I don't forgive the hurt that was done to me..... I cannot move forward and be happy. My boyfriend has been verbally abusive and not long ago flirted with a woman on the inte

Asked by Carino on 1/25/09 3 Answers»
MJ Acharya

Answer:

Hi,

How have you fared since you posted this question? Learning to forgive is a very hard thing, but you're right - forgiveness IS divine. I, too, have found it hard to forgive people at times, but eventually through meditation I have been able to forgive them silently (in my mind and heart), or I have been able to speak with them personally and let them know that I forgive them.

Since you were abused, I think a great place to start would be to join a support group - either online or a physical group to meet with others that have been in the situation. Through their experience, you can get tips from them about how they were able to forgive their ex.

Additionally, I am sure there are many books in the library or your local bookstore that speak about forgiveness. You may want to check some of those out.

Best of luck to you,
MJ
Author of The Breakup Workbook
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Answered by: MJ Acharya on 5/16/09
Bird28

Answer:

you should only feel the need to forgive yourself when you have done something wrong. you didnt do anything wrong he did.

Answered by: Bird28 on 3/2/09
Carino

Answer:

I guess its forgiving for myself , not the other person....... to get my power back.

Thank you.........

Answered by: Carino on 2/3/09
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