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Anonymous

Question:How do i break off totally?

I broke up with my bf of 6 yrs four years ago but up to today we still hook up. He's still dating and so am I. He even had a serious gf in between and I had a bf. i still hook up with him bcuz i really still do want to make it work with him again. I think the sex is great and we both mesh so well as friends too, but he gives me pc answers when i ask him about us like he's not sure where his life is right now, etc. I know I should stop and I've tried just being friends but we always end up in bed eventually. Do i have to cut hi moff completely? I feel used. if i was ok with just hooking up i wouldn't be asking this question.

Asked by Anonymous on 7/10/08 1 Answer»
emd1121

Answer:

Ugh...........been there very recently. I left him 5 months ago and we were still hooking up. I then found out that he had a girlfriend and she was moving in with him! I was disgusted that now instead of his girlfriend I was "the other woman". It's not worth it. Really I changed my number so he couldn't contact me. I really think you should do the same. It is REALLY hard at first, but you will feel better about moving on with your life.

Answered by: emd1121 on 7/11/08
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