I don't understand. I am 37. It seems human being has the capabilities to achieve whatever he wants. I have been able to achieve, at least to certain degree, what I want to achieve. Whether an advanced degree, get into a top firm, or even a profitable startup. But I just don't have a relationship. Is it I didn't try hard enough? Or my unconsious mind doesn't really want it? One day I was reading a book in Barnes. It said, 'look around and notice the thing which catch your attention. That is what you really want'. I looked at a lovers sitting next to me. That was 8 years ago. Today, I am still single. Maybe I live in a place where I can't meet guys? But it doesn't make sense to move to a place where I can meet guys. It would make sense to move to a place for work. But here is another word I just read in 'the Answers' - if you are interested, you do what is convenient for you, if you are committed, you do whatever it takes. I have done whatever it takes in terms of career. but isn't the Book say 'don't hop to a plane to see the guy with any execuse - visit your grandma, etc'? I don't understand. Should I be commited to finding a relationship by moving to a new place (I now live in a small town)? But isn't it love come at a time when you don't try to find it? Isn't love supposed to come naturally?