This is a difficult situation. I would take the good advice that judijuly gave you because it would be the same advice I'd offer. Plus as LMAY09 said, I think avoiding being there when the visits take place is a good idea. I think you should find things like support groups, meditation etc. These things will hopefully help you heal from this. And then maybe when your wounds are healed and your stronger, you can do the Family, group gatherings. I wish you the best and I hope you can find the peace and comfort you need to get you through this...

Let me get this straight...a woman knowingly knew a man was married and had an affair with him and then married him? I love the saying what comes around goes around. Sounds like she certainly deserves such a loyal husband.

I can truly understand your pain and hurt. The one thing that helper me was I finally found it in my heart to forgive him and her for what happened. God gave me that strength and after 5(six) years it felt good to get on with my life. Just keep praying for what you need to do. The Lord will always give us his answer if we listen. Always know that you are a good and loved person. Hope this helped.

This is a really hard situation. If it were me, i'd go one of two ways. (1) Avoid them at all costs, especially since your children are adults and are free to form relationships with your ex-husband if they want to, or (2) try to embrace them and open up a dialogue with them. If they're going to be in your life and you can't avoid them, you might as well try to work out your issues with them and try to form some sort of relationship. It sounds like your ex did hurt you, and you're still hurting from it. I think if you talk about it and TRY to work things out, it will be less difficult to be around these people.