Lessons Learned

All of the little things brides ask of their wedding guests seem so simple—an on-time R.S.V.P., adherence to the dress code, a gift straight off the registry. But, as Brides.com writer Zibby Right confesses, unless you've been a bride yourself, all of those little things can seem like no big deal.

Right recalls begging one friend at the last minute to allow her to invite her latest boyfriend of only six weeks. They broke up shortly afterwards

"I'm mortified by my past behavior, but thankful that this friend and others let it all slide," she writes "And now that I'm in their position, I'm trying to do the same."

Are you frustrated by the "rude" behavior of some of your invitees? Keep in mind that a lot of them may have never planned a wedding before and therefore don't understand what it's like to wait by the mailbox for an R.S.V.P. or what squeezing in just one more guest will do for your budget and your sanity. Remember that they love you and are excited about attending your big day; they might just need a little extra kick in the pants. [MSNBC]