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HELP! How can I get my wife to understand that I do not do it purposely, I do try to listen to her, but bits and pieces do not get caught.
Listening
Dear JoyofKicking,
When we meet and fall in love with someone, it is easy to forget that merging two lives together doesn't mean we become one personality, with the same communication styles, needs or outlook.
There is a good chance you may never "listen" in the same way your wife does but there are ways in which you can show her that you are trying.
Here are a few tips:
Give her your full attention: When she wants to sit and talk with you, take a few minutes and stop what you are doing and look at her. If you need a few minutes to finish what you are doing, let her know and let her know you are doing it so that you're sure not to be distracted.
Ask Her a Few Questions: When you need clarification with something, stop her and ask her for it. If you want to know more about something, ask her to expand on her thoughts.
Repeat what she says back to her to make sure you understand key points of the conversation. This is especially helpful if she's asking you to do something for her.
If you have trouble remembering things like dates and errands, type them out in Outlook or jot them down in a datebook.
Hope that helps!
